December 28, 2009

The love makes people heart-broken

The love makes people heart-broken 
When the a lot, promote the mouse, the constant page of breaking alone. When being boring, hold the remote controller, the variety channel not stopped in the hand. Can't find a webpage that can be of interest, can not find a program wanted to see, . What is the loneliness? A celebrity has said, the loneliness is to hear the sound of the rain being slept. See the white petal of powder of the oriental cherry descending slowly and lightly in the wind gently, remembers a person that has ever loved. I often hold the telephone, helpless feeling. Think, which telephone is that I can be in order to what has been made in the past with one's heart at peace in before dawn three o'clock? The having a look around of once of once, No. The searching of many times, or does not have.
Friend, my friend can be neither counted as nor counted as either more little. It is that kind "  The friendship between gentleman appears indifferent but is pure like water "  Friendship. Realistic life is really like this too, I am nothing but a follower ....
Whether still can write down some words. I do not know. The love is beautiful and gentle, write to write with going, stories that the love likes going are all the same for me. We are not the personages in the TV play forever, can be dividing and dividing shutting jointly, continue the happy emotion in noise. It is so many to go through, it is the gold reason to be clear and dull at last. I have ever said, too happy one does not belong to me. Just, act as the sad time that is close, my not self-awareness. Do not understand whether I am too silly or too silly?
Can't escape from the fixed mode forever in love in the city. Love, after being for a long time, either is used to or tired. I do not know if when I accept a section of new emotions again, should be hopeful to it, the ones that have already smelt final result are miserable. Young lover, or romantic, or dull emotion. In all persons' love, have not opened one's mouth yet, but rotten while already manifesting outmodedly and can't bear. Looked around, the love around was merely mediocre too originally.
At very black night, can not fall asleep. Sit in front of the computer, hold the pillow. Open some terrified eyes, is looking at everything pitch-dark. The one that was remembered is all some passages, I think whether I have already torn these passages to shreds, to accompany me to spend so lonely a day? What wheel is all the music or song of the soft and sad feeling in one's ear, those intimate and gentle and gentle lyrics, let people cry listening to. I think stubbornly, these songs seem to all write for me, sing for me 

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Posted on 12/28/2009 12:13 AM Comments (0)

The society looks for happily

The society looks for happily 
The heart is net and deep and remote and blue
Thinking all the time I was younger sister Lin shedding tears forever, had quoted it alive in dreary autumn, one forever, never happy, find happy to belong to me until I today only, it coming by the I silently, belong to everybody when being originally happy, each right that citizen should have too. Since stepping that step of the campus, set foot on the way to seek the dream of Beijing, I have not been really happy again, all of a sudden feel happy and actually very simple, or a blessing of the friend's, piece expression in one's eyes on again target it or not in unrequited love with,will baffled emotion for a moment since welling up in the bottom of heart.
It is lonely, frightened, sad to act as, when the death came, perhaps we were only that the thing heart that see loses, one's own happy work that why we have not thought of to let, happy and ubiquitous, perhaps the happiness which a lot of people look for is just at our side, happiness is only a kind of mental state, see how to go to think about oneself, how to go to think.
Very happy today, in fact care others are a kind of happiness too, while you let others find happily, oneself will be happy too, I want to let each good friend of mine happy, like seeing the caricature " dog yaksha " of TAKAHASI's son studying in U.S.A. taking a cartoon now when remembering to study in the high school, always like heroine Ge Wei inside, Ge Wei grows in a country, pass through to the Warring States era through the withered well, meet the juvenile dog yaksha, with witch's woman fairy strength she removed the seals of 500 years of dog yaksha, this rude and lovely dog yaksha of the later deep sadness, but the dog yaksha was loving Radix Platycodonis deeply, Wei Ge kind to want, get back to one's own era many times, it is she that want, see dog yaksha, in fact she is the same as the mental state of Radix Platycodonis, miss the scissors dog yaksha of another time, Ge Wei has never hated Radix Platycodonis, Ge Wei is very happy if can keep her at dog yaksha's side. It is so simple if perhaps this is Ge Wei's happiness, it is actually a person's ability to control oneself too to be happy.
 In our unhappy time, don't wait happily, might as well look for happily by oneself, find diligently that happy, happy actually just at our side all the time.

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July 27, 2009

From how hold pen

From how hold pen withdraw wrist luck begin, teach me practise handwriting, let me subordinate to, practise one from seal character mother. Have been chosen a foundation Deng Stone if " stone drum is the gentle " album of paintings or calligraphy,it ask it copy, write repeatedly everyday I. Say when to practise to familiar with, write Must presentable, could have a rest hand. I like practising handwriting, every the study loving fathers to decorate for me even more and what he gave to me A pen, every paper, every one are black. Practise handwriting first before becoming the homework that a school teacher fixed up every day. Mother does not see very much I write, she uses and reads over in red ink after finishing writing. The whole word is written well, collude in this word It is big to enclose and enclose; A certain part of the word is written well, draw the ringlet to enclose in this part. A big character is passed The reading over of mother, make and look like the artificial map drawn

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July 3, 2009

Act as the good cheering squad

Act as the good cheering squad (1) To the child's every activity, parents should participate in, act as the good cheering squad too. Participate in enthusiastically, praise appropriately, really appreciate children from the deep of the heart, will bring and encourage much more strongly good result than the empty mouth. One day, I run into good friend of daughter in library, have jasmine, wave of A, that university study in, A&M of state, it is said she participates in the beauty competition, it is final on the same day evening, I say to her: "I go to cheer for you, by the way take several photos. " Before beginning, her mother held a pile of tickets trying to win sb.'s favor in advance,etc. at the gate of theater, distribute to the friend coming to boost. Enter the theater, see all of 8 people of parents' siblings of their family and show up. In the performance, everybody makes foot strength refuel for her. Her mother carries a notebook silently, like a professional referee, " give a mark " for daughter's tiny project one by one conscientiously . The night, jasmine, wave of A, make one's wish fulfilled and win the championship. Beauty competition after the match, in one hall of revelry, see joyous song dance wildly, have a chat blow the daily life with father of jasmine, wave of A, by the I. Father of the jasmine of wave of A graduates from the university of Georgetown, major in management of crime, once the warden in the prison of any federal woman. The job income of the government is not high, he adopts two orphans yet, supports 3 university students and two middle school students, it is difficult to live. In order to increase incomes, he joins reserve duty. " 9 11" After the incident, he responds to work for military base. In order to participate in this beauty competition of the daughter, he specially asks for leave for 3 days, comes back and acts as the cheering squad. Come over from the military base of New Mexico by car, the single trip is wanted for 12 hours. The loving father smile at, say to me after the at midnight, party end, go back to sleep on for 4 5 hours, must stand up and come back to the base if it is not bright. A face of his is happy, complete indifference, let me have emotion that can not say. The uninteresting one drives over a long distance in 24 hours back and forth, in order to participate in a daughter's beauty competition match in the university! A lot of people say, only Chinese, Chinese parents love children most, pay attention to the child's education most. From this father's body, I have experienced emotion and shock that may not necessarily see from a lot of Chinese parents. The various competitions that the child went out to participate in in the past, the majority was in 300 kilometers, range of the drive of six or seven hours back and forth, some American parents will go, cheer by car on a special trip, it is only the encouragement child to be, participate in last awarding medals; Some parents must arrive. Recall myself, go to the other places to boost and look on as for 10 times on the experience of the cheering squad her by car on a special trip in junior middle school, 6 years of high school on the daughter. Even so, in the eyes, I exemplary father, often as " hope woman Cheng Feng " in a lot of Chinese Talk about money. Someone thought only Chinese trained children to be willing to spend a lot of time and energy, in fact, Americans are not only willing to spend a lot of time and energy in the child's education, a lot of people but also like joining in it in person very much. My colleague Dr. Neil is so, he has 3 children going to the middle and primary schools, after he spends every day coming off duty and the time of weekend, go to his child's school to serve as the football coach. Absolutely come off duty on time at 5 o'clock every afternoon, get to the parking area hurriedly, drive and drive the court of school directly, roll in the child piles everyday, leading them to practise ball game, competition, is awfully busy. I did not understand this culture phenomenon while just coming to U.S.A., had thinking all the time he was " held more than one job currently " with remuneration ,Knew later, he acted as " volunteer " persevering for ten years as if it were one day ,With children only " Play " . The symphony orchestra of daughter's high school has a lot of parents' participation too, elect " friend of orchestra " composed of parents every year Committee. Chinese visiting perform of in order to go that year, parents also established several more committees, the fund raising committee is presided over by a physical professor, the committee of public relations is in the charge of a news dean of university, I become China to always get in touch with. The fund raising committee is responsible for raising money to the organization of the other places, the committee of public relations designs publicity materials, writes the article, contacts the media. Several parents as judge, lawyer, doctor enter the name enthusiastically to go to China with the group too, in order to assist to solve the potential problem. There are 138 musicians in all in the symphony orchestra, there are 25 the mere cello, 6 times of double bass, there are bass number, bass drum,etc., the volume is very large, can not take the plane with oneself, several parents have undertaken to process the task of the big wooden case checked for dozens of. Some people not only can appreciate the achievement that one's own child makes, can appreciate the children of others' achievement, offer great encouragement by achievement of child with action to others, extremely estimable. Sometimes, other people can play the function that parents and teacher can not play on the child's encouragement, very helpful to the child's growth. After the daughter's book is published, the publishing house arranges and holds and signs to sell the book ceremony in the bookstore of Houston, because time is urgent, there is no ticket suitable, drive alone in accordance with the gentleman then in president's promise of publishing house, come in Houston from San Francisco. More than 3 000 kilometers apart from Houston in San Francisco, the single trip that drive is nearly 40 hours, sell the book ceremony in order to participate in the only half - day signature, he will dawdle on the large desert in 6 days back and forth. For not allowing me to feel sorry, he is serious The Chinese consul general to Houston mound wins the cloud gentleman and participates in the new book and releases and signs and sells the book, Chinese books and periodicals society until Mr. come to act as then in promise in president" The cheering squad " Say to me: "In fact, I like driving. "


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April 16, 2009

It is only a kind of mood

tired " It is only a kind of mood when being initial, it is long, " tired " Will turn into a kind of physiological state, a kind of disease, the whole human body becomes dough after fermenting together, have a kind of downward trend all the time, collapse softly. Geng DongLiang sits to in front of the tiger machine, plays with the angle son on hand absent-mindedly, recollect the bright jade tablet again and again. "In 15, in 20 years at most, you are sure to become a most outstanding singer. " Geng DongLiang has thought all this sentence for 1,000 times. In 20, what will happen 20 years later? The most serious thing is just after two years, two years later, he must become a music teacher in a middle school, this is destiny, can not change, can not waver. What only he can become is to give it to the children on class, explain some music general knowledge, if lucky, become a private teacher for a certain tycoon's son or daughter, award him 15 to pass through when tycoon's mood is good. Geng DongLiang can not wait for 20 years. Geng DongLiang does not even want to wait for two years more. Geng DongLiang only sat up straight in front of the tiger machine, he decided to verify one's own life again, one's own luck. He welcomes the most crucial one in all one's life in the afternoon. Dedicated this day the bright luck of the east is too bad, more than 7,900 fen, a sniper's shot in Alibaba is still finally. The game is really the life of this life, it set up so many " accidental " ,Lie in it has nothing inevitable forever like life the most pleasant place of the game. Dedicated the east bright to stare color reject, he has avoided the electronic trap very cleverly and very effectively, throw and put every angle son carefully. Dedicated to certainly understand mankind's intelligent funny place in front of destiny only in the east. The reason is very simple, either my money is sent to its mouth, or its money is put into my pocket. Have instincts while being what is called, even if you have witnessed you also cannot help at the same time involuntarily. A hand is put up on Geng DongLiang's shoulder. DongLiang Geng go back excessive, one stand in behind him in exquisite strange man, it is being dedicated that wash to smile only in the east, it is like the old friend. He takes Geng Dong's bright angle son over, many are thrown to the tiger machine. He says while throwing: "You do not know me, but I know you. From your school to here, I have followed you for almost one month. " What Geng DongLiang keeps a close watch on him, can't remember the one's own happening at one's side inside these days. The strange man looks at the color to reject, but the handle has been stretched into the pocket, take out a business card, put on the machine board. Vertical to print two heavy Song typeface very at being getting gray and one-sided, all. The lower right corner is delegation's Xiao Song's word, singer or composer of Ji HouFeng record company. This business card is very unique, there is not the most common and essential telephone number on business card, there are only the numbers of a row of addresses and offices. Exert and pout one's lips as a signal and say to the business card allly: "Perhaps which day is interested for you, will stop over here. " Staring at the color to reject and say allly: "We change a playing method, come big. " Geng DongLiang says: "My money has been lost by you accurately. " A all only leaving the last angle on hand, say: "Unless pay the bill we, come you it play, is it the willing to can play in so long as you with. " Geng DongLiang understands his words, it is a bit tense to understand. Geng DongLiang says: "Why let me play? " "We hope to have outstanding singers, this is a requirement of art, and the requirement of the commerce too, this requirement is exactly a mission of our company. " Say allly. All to talk about, make, at plane board, " attack " the horn son on hand . He has taken arms in one's arms, look at the east dedicatedly only, there is a kind of fatal calling smiling inside, said allly: "It's time for you to play. " Geng DongLiang picks up the something small and hard of angle, the angle son has already permeated a all body temperature. Geng DongLiang appreciates the something small and hard of angle, but sight is staring at the color to reject, a all attention has been moved to the color and rejected, he has referred to the screen, says: "The foundation that I laid for you has been already good. " The color was rejected inside the sign of the chance appeared suddenly, but Geng DongLiang hesitated, have thrown the angle son into it subsequently. Tiger machine refuse, it swallow horn son seem either meaning that outside spit. It is on and empty-handed in the east to be dedicated, waiting. Said allly: "If you invest, can take place a little wealth perhaps one second early. " Said allly: "Perhaps you shouldn't hesitate. " Having left this sentence behind allly, he shoots Geng DongLiang's shoulder again before before leaving. . General manager Li JianGuo goes to work on schedule at eight o'clock every morning, comes to office 1708. It is the old fashioned and inflexible habit that careers of the teachers of more than ten years formed to go to work on time. HouFeng Ji record company located in democracy south road 71 No., silver 17th of Building. The top class in a kindergarten desk of him put under one facing the east shutter, Li found the state and see the sun once pushing away and opening when being fine, the white shutter divided the sun into a Gege, spelt the pictures on the wall modernly like one. President Li of such a moment will have a kind of fulfillment and challenge sense. General manager Li JianGuo followed such outstanding feeling in the every day morning, the having much to do of one day at the beginning. Li JianGuo waited the wind record company and just went through a disaster in season before taking over. The former general manager hankers after low-cost trade, the production of the company is almost only pirate business. Their products are piled on the square finally, welcome a yellow road roller. The witness says, really love, the road roller was just rolled, the disc on the ground was cough up and cough up bang banged, a full place, lack the arm broken leg, are all chip. The TV station has broadcast this picture to the whole city in the news program. The image of Ji HouFeng record company became the cartoon cat on TV from that time, have pressed into a two-dimentional level road roller, has died completely. Music lecturer Li JianGuo of the normal school of the city welcomes the opportunity at this time. Li JianGuo speaks gently, a pair of glasses of shelf, a pair of a model for others gentle samples. However, lecturer Li JianGuo has defeated the businessman from various places live in recruitment in the record company, have become the leader of new generation of record company very successfully. Recruit and set up and permit the meeting hall of the condition group live. Recruit, begin yet, several decision personage sit in front row chatting, they have a chat get up matters of renaming as of record company. Li JianGuo walks up, asks softly: "What is done to change names? " A woman speaks the local dialect and says: "It is notorious, ruin the reputation of the group company. " The dialogue in Li JianGuo's answer reasonable drama, he says in pure dialect: "It is notorious, is it good? Clear, it is the popularity, is a market. " Recruiting has not begun yet, people have already treated Li JianGuo with special respect. However, it is disappointed to Li JianGuo to recruit and reply a end people, this lecturer's technological operation to the company of music is really the layman very much. JianGuo Li sit in in charge of, opposite to mat, have until one's own achievement depressed too, he has supported the glasses, smiles toweringly and arrogantly. Li JianGuo says: "All these are general knowledge, do you ask what's the point of these? See how about does it swim alone, could know after entering the water. General general knowledge is not important, everybody can learn, I am not stupid. The most important one is that kind of ability to utilize general knowledge in my view, the instinct of only a person. " Chairman Ms. Luo Qi who permits the group company of the condition sits aside straight. She sends, lower the voice the light air is asked: "What does instinct that you say mean? " Li JianGuo has smiled again, says: "Make a metaphor, just as the wild animal eats people. " Li JianGuo strokes one's own larynx with one's own finger, the light air is said softly too: "See whether it could bite into the most serious position, then bite into pieces and swallow together including meat and the bone. " Li JianGuo is keeping watch on Luo Qi calmly while saying this words. According to his judgement, this woman talent keeping silent sitting aside is the most key personages here. His sight is calm, calm, centralized, strong from penetrating over directly behind the glasses, appear one spit greedy strength and ruthless strength of bone under a gentle one. Li JianGuo says: "I am engaged in the work of music for so many years, who I firmly believe not to have than I. I find out about the musician's strong point, that is to say, I find out about the musician's weakness. "


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March 8, 2009

Love and psychotherapy three

Love and psychotherapy (3)

Handmade Bracelets Beaded Bracelets Heart Necklace Beaded Necklaces lot of people produce psychological disease, lack love of parents in the course of growing up, or that got is odd-shaped love. The doctor offers patients more love and care, can make their psychology compensated, make disease cured faster. Psychologist can love patient is unable to make, treat curative effect of producing wholehearted, not to mention got instant result. No matter the psychologist receives too many good training, does not have real love, or lack self-perfection, will only wind up in order to fail in psychotherapy.

Because is easy to be closely linked to sex, we might as well slightly do the discussion to the sexual behaviors of doctor and patient. There is the psychotherapy "   


Love " With " intimate "  Element,so, patient appeal when and doctor is apt each other producing, follow to increase too if the possibility of the sexual behavior takes place. Some psychological counterparts, attack those psychologists who have sex with patient bitterly greatly. In fact, they may not really understand the reason among them. To be frank, if I judge through careful weighing that should make the patient's intelligence ripe, must produce relation intimate with their '  Including sexual behavior)  ,Perhaps I will choose this way without the least hesitation. But in to from the doctor margins, such special situation has appeared yet so far 15 such as me, it is very difficult for me to imagine presenting this kind of situation.

Just as what was stated in front, the role whom the competent psychologist acted, is basically similar to competent parents' role. Obviously, it is impossible for competent parents to have sex with child. Parents' duty, lie in helping children to grow up, but not utilize children to meet the personal desire. The person who has psychotherapy of sense of duty, will help patients to get well as much as possible, but not meet one's own need through the patient. Parents should encourage children to pursue the independence, this is responsibility that a doctor bears for the patient too. In a situation that there is no this kind of responsibility as the prerequisite, if a certain psychologist declares, he has sex with patient, it is not for meeting the selfish desire, but in order to encourage patients to move towards the independence, then his words must be the sheer rubbish, it is unable to make us convinced.

Certainly, the really sexual seduction inclination of some patients, easy pairs of oneself and the psychologist's relation, turn into a certain relation. This freedom and growth that will hinder them. Some extant theories and few evidences prove: The persons who treat have sex with such a patient, can only make the patient's psychology rely on further, so will only hinder the maturity of their intelligence. Even if doctor and patient have not developed into sexual behavior stage, just talk love, it is the thing doing harm rather than good too. I have said, if fall into the snares of love in the front, since my demarcation line will collapse, its independence will fall back by a large margin.

The persons who treat fall into the snares of love, the former's unable objective state in the face of the latter with the patient, it is unable to distinguish one's own needs. The persons who treat patients who loves them, should not talk love with the patient easily. The doctor must respect the independent personality of the person loved, distinguish the roles of oneself and patient. Some psychologists even think, besides treating, other time can not keep in touch with the patient privately. I respect the starting point of this view, however, I think unnecessary to make so strict a regulation. Certainly, I had had experience failing in this respect in the past: I keep in touch with a patient privately, but not helped its treatment more or less. Meanwhile, other patients and I associate privately, the result all have harvest in various degree each other. I once carried on the psychoanalysis and treated for several good friends too, and succeeded without exception. Does not usually get on very well, even if treat and succeed in coming to an end, the doctor should be calm and prudent, guarantee one's own contact privately is not for meeting individual's needs absolutely, and ingore the patient's advantages and disadvantages.

Since the modern psychotherapy theory dares to be confrontational, determine the circle of psychotherapy as the course of the real love, then on the contrary, real love, can make the psychotherapy more effective? If we love one's own companion, parents, children, friend wholeheartedly, we can carry on the self-perfection for making their intelligence ripe, does this mean too we are carrying on psychotherapy to it? I think the answer is definite.

If my wife, children, parents or friend have presented psychological disease, they are either cranky all day, or self-delusion, or unfortunate in other predicaments, I am sure to help them without the least hesitation, communicate with them closely, improve their state as much as possible. In this course, I will also stand agony, am containing by oneself constantly, thus realize the self-perfection. I attitude towards them, treat like me those pay money come, look for patient that I diagnosed the illness. I have never at all times imagined, I should divide one's own job and private life into two. I impossible because household, friend have not signed the warranty with me no, have not paid any medical fee to me, ignore to them, conceal, blow professional knowledge and all love. If I am unwilling to hold every chance, use the knowledge learnt, the person who helped me to love as much as possible, make great efforts to promote the maturity of their intelligence, how am I regarded as good friend, good father, good husband and good son? Moreover, I believe my friend and family will treat me with the same attitude, help me to solve various problems. Though sometimes, child of me criticism in I too candid, the so-called " sincere advice " which they put forward How ripely to may not be certain too, but make me get much enlightenment after all! My wife brings my help, is no less than the help that I gave to her definitely too. Likewise, if the friend turns a blind eye to my personal question, has never given me any to come from wholehearted care, I can not regard them as the real friend either. In fact, without guidance and help of relative and friend, my growth and progress will lag behind greatly. All establish the emotion relation on the true love,  are in fact all psychotherapy relations of Mobile POS|Contactless POS|Fingerprint POS|Credit Card Terminal|Point of Sale encouraging each other, promoting together.

 
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Love and psychotherapy

Love and psychotherapy (2)

During  Handmade Bracelets Beaded Bracelets Heart Necklace Beaded Necklaces treating another patient '  Call her Helen tentatively)  ,The drama turn that is similar to has appeared too. Helen sees the doctor twice every week, passes for nine months, still there is no improvement in the condition, I lack good opinion to she herself too. Having got along for a long time, she wears the thick mask. I am not clear where the question appears. I study her case at several nights continuously in falling into and confusing and annoyed, but there is not any harvest. What I only knew is, Helen distrusts me. She complains either I do not care about her, even say I only care about her money. One day after nine months, she says while receiving treatment: "Parker doctor, you are unable to imagine how depressed I am. You do not care about me, does not mind my feeling either, how do I communicate with you you let? "




" Helen, " I answer " I think, should both of us very much depressed. I do not know, how will you listen to me to think, but to tell the truth, I have obtained employment over the past ten years, you are the patient making me troublesome most. I had never had such an experience in the past: Keep in touch with the patient for such a long time, but have no progress at all in treating. Perhaps you think, I am not the doctor suitable for you. I do not know either what it is about. I am unwilling to give up halfway, but you really confuse me. I can not come round to the idea finally what's happened for the cooperation between us. "

Helen showed the happy smile suddenly, " seemed, you cared, I. " She says.

"Oh? " I ask.

"You do not care about me, it is just unlikely to feel depressed. "

At the time of the next meeting, Helen has totally changed. She avoided mentioning a lot of things in the past, nowadays but looked like and changed a person. She tells I, her experience and feeling in the past from cover to cover. Less than one week, I found the crux of her disease, and established the ideal healing solution rapidly.

My response in treating, have special meaning to Helen. I make the prerequisite of appropriate response, lie in our contacts are deepened more and more, lie in all of us have made it hard in order to treat. One of the most important principles of the psychotherapy is not to depend on simple encouragement, it is not with the aid of any "  The charm " Or take the special treatment way, but between doctor and patient, should promise each other, carry on unsurpassed efforts. The persons who treat must carry on the self-perfection for the patient's growth, bear the risk which does not have the route of retreat. They want to consistently care about the patient, would like to pay more energy for this. In other words, real love is the most important factor of letting the psychotherapy carry on smoothly.

Nowadays, western psychological work, the amount of quantity of it, make people dazzled, but has mostly ignored "  Love " This topic. This is really incredible. The wise of the Indian religious sect point out: Love is a source of the strength. But in the psychological work of the west, there are only articles of specific analysis psychotherapy success, failure, gain and loss, just mention the question of the love once in a while. Moreover, they refer to " the cordial sense " at most , " sympathy "  Wait for the speciality to facilitate the psychotherapy and succeed. " love " This topic, seem to make psychologists feel awkward, so that seldom mention. This kind of situation has a great deal of reasons, one of the reasons is, we often lump real love and romantic love together. In addition, we overweight the so-called " scientific treatment " ,Think it more rational and more concrete, it is a therapeutic way that can be measured, certainly psychology belongs to the category of scientific treatment too. Comparatively speaking, the love is the abstract things, difficult by measurement and exceeding the rational things, so can't include in the row of scientific treatment.

The experts are right "  Love " Refuse to say anything about, there is another reason: They think the doctor should keep the distance with the patient, such traditional therapeutic idea is deep-rooted. The famous psychologist Floyd's follower, the intensity of believing in to this idea, even far more than Floyd. According to their view, the patients all belong to " move the feeling " to the doctor's love ,Doctor's love to the patient belongs to "  Move the feeling instead "  ,All abnormal phenomenon, they can only bring more questions, should do one's utmost to avoid.

I think this kind of view is very absurd. Move the feeling, ever considered as the emotional responses not appropriate and psychological function, but, the doctor can listen attentively to the patient's innermost thoughts and feelings in several hours continuously in the course of treating, they do not interrupt patients at will, will never jump to a conclusion too, they can offer patients unprecedented care, lighten the agony of patient's body and mind by a large margin, in this case, the patient falls in love with a doctor, it is totally a normal response. Moreover, in case of quite a lot of, move the essence of the feeling, it is determined that it can prevent the patient from really falling in love with a doctor. After all, it is only a transient psychological phenomena to move the feeling, can make patients experience the strength of the emotion for the first time, thus apter to enable and treat and bring into effection. Some patients cooperate and treat, accept the doctor's suggestion, and make intelligence ripe through treating, the doctor has good opinion and even produces love to such a patient, is the thing naturally, there is no improper place. Mix the kindred composition in treating, can enable and treat more strong, Mobile POS|Contactless POS|Fingerprint POS|Credit Card Terminal|Point of Sale at this moment, psychologist's love to the patient that I believe, pay children's love like competent parents.


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